Am I the asshole for "robbing" my wife's affair partner which has now led to his divorce?

I (32) have been married to my soon to be ex-wife (30), Madison, for four years. We are currently in counseling but it is not going to work.

About a year ago I found out she was having an affair by coming home to their clothes in our living room and sounds coming from our bedroom.

I lost it. I was getting my cricket bat out of the front closet when I stopped to think about the consequences. I did not want to go to jail.

Instead I took all their clothes and left quietly. I went to a friend's house but not before throwing all the clothes in a McDonald's garbage can.

I turned off my phone and got shitfaced with my buddy. His wife hosed us off in the morning.

After I turned my phone back on I had dozens of calls and texts from Madison. First scared because she got my updated flight information. Then upset that I hadn't called her to let her know I was going to be coming home early. Then freaked out that the house had been broken into. Then crazy because she figured out it was me. They just got more deranged.

The guy she was with is five inches shorter than me and about 60 pounds lighter. So if he had taken my clothes it would be obvious.

He ended up calling his friend to go get his spare keys from his house. Unfortunately for him his wife smelled a rat and followed his friend back to my house. Where she saw him leaving in oversized clothes.

Long story short she took pictures and she had evidence of his infidelity. Which caused their prenup to be cancelled. Which cost him a lot of money. It is all one big giant shit show.

It took a couple of months but my wife convinced me to try and forgive her. We started going to counseling and we were working our way through it. Until recently.

In a counseling session she said that I was wrong to steal his wallet, phone, and car keys. She said that his divorce is costing him a lot of money and that I should have dealt with it in a more mature manner and that it was my fault.

I have never admitted to taking his stuff. To begin with I was afraid he might call the cops. Then I didn't want to give her ammunition in case she wanted a divorce. Now I just don't care.

I told her that her cheating was the reason her boyfriend is getting divorced. And that I hope his ex takes everything.

I am still not living at home. I have my own apartment and I'm filing for divorce. Now that I know how she feels it is kind of a slap in the face that she is blaming me for his divorce.

Original story from Reddit.

Comments from Harsh Truths

First of all, let’s just take a moment to appreciate the absolute legendary move OP pulled off—stealing the guy's clothes and leaving him butt-naked and panicking! Seriously, that’s some next-level karma right there. The guy had it coming, the audacity of sleeping with another man’s wife in his own home. He should lose it all in the divorce. 

Second, if you ever walk into your home and find someone else’s clothes lying around, take notes from OP. The last thing you want to do is burst into that room and confront them in the act. Seeing something that graphic is bound to mess you up for a long time—don’t believe me? Watch Silver Linings Playbook. The guy who caught his wife with the history teacher in his own bathroom ended up in a psychiatric hospital. Don’t do that to yourself.

At this point, the wife has zero grounds to blame OP for anything. The fact that she’s even trying to flip the script and point fingers at him is beyond outrageous. This is definitely a moment to rethink the entire marriage, and honestly, divorce seems like the most reasonable option on the table. OP did nothing wrong and is definitely NOT the asshole.